#1 reason for divorce

No surprise, then, that the topic that causes more arguments for couples than any other is money (followed by sex, work, children, and housework).   If this is a tension area in your relationship, there are some questions to ask, “What about money are you fighting about?”  Most likely there is a spender vs a saver, or one that is paying bills and “responsible for the money” where as the other doesn’t want any involvement.  Or maybe both of you don’t want to take responsibility or do the bills. As with all things in marriage, communication is key to any situation. What you first have to do is identify the area of tension, it could be one of the above scenarios or another, the focus here is to agree on what the issue is, be honest, put it on the table. You are in this for better or worse, for richer or poorer…. as the vows go. So we are hitting a patch of “poorer” or “worse”, now is the time to work together to make things “better” and perhaps “richer”. Your relationship didn’t get where it is today overnight and it won’t get back to wine and roses overnight. It will take work, but well worth it. Working on your finances together, going through your Financial Statement, and the Money Calendar talking about the concerns, your goals, your dreams. You are in this together, that is the best part, you don’t have to go it alone. Put a plan together that you both can work towards as a couple. If you need help faciliating this, feel free to contact me and I can work with you to get where you need to be.

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~ by debt2dreams on December 23, 2008.

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